“Life sucks at times”.
Do you know that feeling? Nothing evolves the way you intend to and what you want most of all is lie in bed with a warm duvet over your head. I have had some periods of severe depression in my life. Those were the times I didn’t even thought, “Life sucks”. I didn’t think at all anymore. Just felt miserable.
Recognizing the signs
I know the signs very well by now, so I won’t let it come this far anymore. Although I learned that a depression has its advantages – it’s a time to rest and to build up strength for the path back up the hill – it is better for me to act way before I end up on the bottom of that dark hole.
Whenever people said to me “Being happy is a choice”, I used to get mad. I thought they were very pushy and blaming the wrong person. Because if they were right, it meant that I was to blame for my own unhappiness. Grrr, I hated that. I know now that I hated that because I couldn’t see a way to accomplish happiness. Merely telling someone, that it’s a choice to be happy and not explaining anything, doesn’t help that person at all.
Taking control yourself
In the past year I attended several seminars on personal development where I have learned a method to be happy. That doesn’t happen from one minute to the next, I worked very hard and still do, and I know I will have some setbacks occasionally. I choose to be happy:
- For the bigger part I follow the guidelines in the “20 Tips to Improve your Life“. (If you haven’t claimed your free copy yet, you can do so over here).
- I read a lot of books. For instance The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen Covey or one of the free eBooks of Will Edwards.
- I use my husband, my son and my friends as soundboards for my thoughts and contemplations.
- And I write a lot, either in a journal or on-line.
What is your tactic to purposefully be happy? Write it in the comment-box below so we can all benefit from it.