Do you sometimes feel like you’re in quicksand and not getting anywhere? I know I do and so does my son. Last year we decided to follow a six-week program for personal development together. This program is described in a book we both have, “Elements of Success” by Nisandeh Neta (unfortunately it’s not available at the moment). My son lives in Spain and I am living in Holland but contact was not a problem because we skyped every day for confirmation we were on the right track and to encourage each other.
We both did very well after that six weeks and since it is advisable to repeat the program on a regular basis I am doing it again at the moment.
One of the best things is you have to evaluate your values and write down everything you think is important in relationship with those values. After that you make seven goals that derive from those values.
Setting goals is so powerful
The seven goals you choose each get a different (rainbow)color, which makes it easier to remember them. There is a red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and purple goal.
When I did the program last year I wrote down the goals on colored papers and put them on a notice board.
This time I make them even more powerful by adding collages of pictures of the goal and putting myself in the middle of it.
Another thing that I do different compared to last year is the timeframe of the goals. Last year all my goals were grand and compelling. For instance being a 100% owner of my house in stead of sharing that ownership with the bank. I still haven’t completely reached that goal.
Although some of my present goals still have a large timeframe, the other ones just take days or weeks. It’s so much nicer to check off a reached goal every week.
Best way to set a goal
Write them down
• starting with the word I
• phrasing in the now
• stating it in the positive
• and make sure you describe the end result
For years I have had a backache, so I was inclined to say to myself: “I don’t have pain” or “My back doesn’t hurt”. The result being that I focused on the problem.
Nowadays I tell myself I have a supportive body and I take care of it by doing exercises every morning.
Nine goals a day
Another tip I can share with you so you get the maximum out of your goalsetting is this:
Divide your goals in small chunks and make it a daily habit to work on them.
• Set three (chunks of) goals a day that take about one to two hours
• three goals that take 30 to 45 minutes
• three goals that take 5 to 10 minutes.
When I started with this it felled like a huge mountain I couldn’t look over. But trust me, once you start it works like a charm and you will feel so content at the end of the day.
Are you purposefully working on goals? Let us know in the commentbox below.